Perfect

Perfect

Perfect Confession: I am a perfectionist. As a scholar, mother, wife and counselor I strive to be my best. Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately), life often does not allow for perfection. Things happen that are beyond my control. If you are anything like me, the...
Your Partner Cannot Read Your Mind

Your Partner Cannot Read Your Mind

Your Partner Cannot Read Your Mind One of the biggest communication issues that I see in couples time and again is constantly making assumptions. Assuming that you know your partner so well that you can always tell what they are thinking. “I know exactly what she’s...
On Grief & Parenting

On Grief & Parenting

On Grief & Parenting There are many things about being a parent that I think have to be lived to be fully understood. Over and over people told me how all consuming and exhausting it is to raise a child, and that they never imagined they could possibly love...
Five Signs You May be in a Toxic Relationship

Five Signs You May be in a Toxic Relationship

Five Signs You May be in a Toxic Relationship “To love without knowing how to love, wounds the person we love.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh For five years, in my late teens and early twenties, I was a part of a toxic relationship. It was my first real relationship and I had no...
“Is that your son?”

“Is that your son?”

“Is that your son?” I was recently talking with a friend who is also a black woman with multiracial children. Her boys are both older than mine. She told me that she often had people ask her if she was the boys nanny, and that people were often surprised...