Are you struggling to raise a multiracial child or adopted child of a different racial background than your own?

Counseling for Families with Adopted Children

A wise woman once said that adoption is the only trauma that we expect the person to be grateful for.

While most families who foster and/or adopt children have the best of intentions, they are sometimes surprised by the emotional difficulties of raising a child who has been removed from their family of origin against their will, often with little to no information about why.

The added layer of culture shock can lead to a very painful and confusing situation for all involved. Despite the family’s best efforts to give love, the child may be unable or unwilling to trust and receive it. Fortunately, by providing time and a safe space for your child to grieve the loss, you can make room for healing and bonding to happen in your new family unit.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:

~I’ve tried counseling before and it didn’t work for me. How will this be any different?

Every counselor is different, and the therapeutic relationship is a unique and intimate one. I always encourage potential clients to continue shopping until they find a therapist who is the right fit for them and their situation. This may or may not be me. The best way to find out is to come in for a consultation, and to trust your gut. Most people know after one session whether or not they want to continue working with a counselor. After our initial consultation, we will have an honest and open dialogue about whether or not we are a good fit for each other.

~What if my partner/family won’t come with me?

Even if your partner or family member is uncomfortable with the idea of coming to therapy, there are still many skills that you can learn and bring home to them that can help improve your communication and conflict.

~What might a typical session be like?

Expect to feel your emotions. Part of the process of therapy is learning to tolerate uncomfortable and intense emotions. I will always be there to help you feel safe. Sessions may include talking, practicing skills, noticing body sensations, moving, breathing, mindfulness, guided meditation, etc.

~How long can I expect to be in therapy?

This depends very much on your individual situation. Some people work with me for a few months and some for several years.

~What if I can’t afford it?

Depending on your situation, you may not be able to afford not to. Imagine how your life will be different with better family cohesion, connection and communication. What is that worth to you?

At the same time, I understand that financial constraints are a real thing. I can work with you. Sliding scale options are available. There is also the option of meeting less than weekly. If this is still a difficulty, group therapy may be an option. Please do call or email me to discuss further options.